I got this idea from Devampi's new guide on Basic Mistakes people make. It is very off topic but I am sure that it would help those that would read it on how to "argue" or communicate in a kind manner. I am tired of people acting like ***es to each other on the internet, so the more people know how to communicate, the better.
I would like some suggestions on what to put into this guide. I am naming the "bad arguments" and how to deal with it. Also some tips and tricks on how to get your point across.
I would be grateful for anything you guys can come up with.
Always give credit where it is due.
Sub, all those were going to be included, but you may gave me some new tips and tricks on the subject. Its funny cause youre trying to help me but it looks like youre yelling.
Lol yes its Sora, man I love the game.
This guide will be about everyday life, but mostly on the internet and of course Smite. Think of it like a general guide for communication, cause Ive seen and been in many arguments, many of which ending in them cursing me out and insulting my life. I just thought it would help everybody out. That is why I said its "off-topic" of sorts.
I really should include a section on just the game, so I thank you BullFrog for those pointers. Hopefully Ill have time for this guide, school...and homework.
Like the guide idea !
After I read the comments, it seems it is more how to communicate with other players during a game.
I'll start with the latter first.
If I'm wrong, just tell me.
Here we go.
Here are some tips to help you communicate with your team mates during a game.
Life would be easier if everybody would talk / chat / write to someone the same way you are talking to your girlfriend on her period.
Nah, seriously. Always think twice before telling something.
- Re-read and try to find if the meaning could be mistaken in any way.
- You should not tell somebody to do something
(It's a game, that person can do whatever he/she wants, it his/her fun)
- You should instead suggest to do something
(It's a game, and everybody likes to improve in a game.)
- Encouragement does wonder. Seriously, don't be afraid to use "VER", "VEA", "VVGN"
(When not done sarcastically, it helps to improve the morale of everyone, even if you are far from behind)
- Put your ego out of this game. This is a team game, like any other team game or sport.
You have been kill stealed, how sad, you lost some gold and xp opportunity
That XP and gold is not lost, just not to you, don't be selfish at THAT point.
You have done a kill steal, use VVS. It cost nothing to do it.
If VVS is done before the other player has told something, that seems to calm that player right away.
- Accept the fact that players are not all equal level, no matter what MatchMaking try to tell you.
You will have games where you kill everybody.
You will have games where you get killed by everybody, even the tank. **** happens.
If that can happen to you, it can happen to your team mates as well.
Don't be toxic with somebody that is bad performing with a 0-8-1.
That player is not a noob.
That player is not feeding.
That player is having a hard game, always from behind, and other team is obviously focusing on an easy target.
Try to find a way to help him.
Suggest him to play safer.
Babysit him if you can, if I would have a such score, I would be happy to have someone to help me, instead of bashing me and having to mute everyone.
SORRY :(
SERIOUSLY THOUGH, ITS IRONIC THAT THIS GUIDE IS BEING PUBLISHED NOW, BECAUSE THE CURRENT SF IS PRETTY GOOD. POSITIVELY CALM AND SERENE COMPARED TO THE HURRICANES OF TOXICITY IT USED TO BE - ADMITTEDLY, WHICH I'VE PARTLY CONTRIBUTED TO IN THE PAST, BUT I THINK I MELLOWED OUT. THEN AGAIN, THOSE PEOPLE LEFT, SO...MAYBE I JUST HAD LESS ON MY PLATE.
I'VE BEEN ARGUING A LOT IN MY TIME HERE AND ILL GIVE SOME POINTERS.
1. IF SOMEONE KEEPS ********TING YOU REPEATEDLY, JUST IGNORE HIM. LIKE, THE BEST WAY TO STOP TROLLS IS TO IGNORE THEM. OF COURSE, THAT DOESNT HELP IF OTHER PEOPLE KEEP FEEDING THEM...SO THIS ONLY APPLIES PERSONALLY.
2. IDENTIFY HATERS. "HATERS" REFER TO PEOPLE WHO'VE ALREADY DECIDED THEIR MIND ON WHAT YOU SAID, IF THEY BOTHERED TO READ IT AT ALL, AND INSTEAD CHOOSE TO VENT THEIR ANGER, RAGE, AND HATE ON YOU BY EITHER INSULTING WHAT YOU SAID OR INSULTING YOU. YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT THESE PEOPLE DON'T HAVE A REAL ARGUMENT - OFTEN JUST REPEATING WHAT OTHERS SAID, JUMPING ON THE BANDWAGON, OR USING STUFF THAT'S JUST PLAIN WRONG OR JUST SHOWS THEY MISSED THE POINT AS AN "ARGUMENT" - TO ATTACK YOU.
2.5. IF THEY'RE SHOVING WORDS INTO YOUR MOUTH OR SAY A MASSIVE, DISPROPORTIONATELY GENERIC GENERALIZATION (LIKE CALLING YOUR GIANT ESSAY "********" ON THE FIRST SENTENCE), THEY'RE HATERS OR MORONS. ATTENTION TO DETAIL IS A SIGN OF RESPECT - IF YOUR TAILOR TOOK YOUR SPECIFICATIONS AND IGNORED THEM TO MAKE A GENERIC SUIT, DRESS, OR WHATEVER THAT YOU COULD BUY OFF OF A RACK, THAT'S NOT ONLY RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL, BUT COST YOU TIME AND MONEY, TOO.
3. KINDNESS. IT DOES NO ONE ANY FAVORS TO LOSE YOUR HEAD - EXCEPT YOUR HATERS. BE POLITE AND CIVIL AS POSSIBLE, EVEN WHEN THE OTHER GUY ISN'T.
4. IF YOU CAN USE LOGICAL STATEMENTS OR PRESENT PROOF.
5. FOR ****'S SAKE, IF SOMEONE SAYS "THAT'S JUST YOUR OPINION," IN AN ARGUMENT ALL ABOUT OPINIONS, THEY'RE A HATER. IGNORE THEM, REPORT THEM, AND NEVER EVER DELUDE YOURSELF INTO BELIEVING THAT THEY'RE REDEEMABLE, SANE, OR EVEN REMOTELY INTELLIGENT.
6. YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE OR PREDICT HOW PEOPLE WILL REACT TO CERTAIN TOPICS. IT IS HONESTLY FRIGHTENING AND BEWILDERING. SOME PEOPLE DON'T REACT WELL TO GETTING KNOCKED OUT OF THEIR COMFORT ZONE OR DISRUPTING THE STATUS QUO, AND THEY WILL BECOME HATERS. OR MAYBE...MAYBE THEY WERE ALWAYS HATERS, AND YOU JUST TRIGGERED THEM TO REVEAL THEMSELVES...
I'VE NEVER MET ANYONE I RESPECTED WHO WENT BERSERK OVER STUFF THAT MADE THEM UNCOMFORTABLE...SO MAYBE THAT'S THE CASE. NO ONE WORTH KNOWING WILL BECOME A RAGING ******* ONCE YOU DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES THEM UNCOMFORTABLE.
I think he means in game. However this is something that's really hard to do. I have seen sme vids on it that sometimes the arguing is still a legit report.